Struggling with your weight? Tried everything?

Are you sure?

When it comes to weight loss, how many times have you heard — or said — “I’ve tried everything” or “I struggle with my weight”?

Struggle –

  1. to proceed with difficulty or with great effort
  2. to make strenuous or violent efforts in the face of difficulties or opposition

We know what the highlighted words mean, but there is nuance. And all three terms are relative. What you might consider difficult, I might consider easy. And vice versa. Your interpretation of great effort might not be mine. You get the point.

The frequently over-expressed sentiment, I struggle with my weight. I’ve tried everything is questionable because if you’re at an unhealthy body weight but are an otherwise healthy person (without a medical condition that causes weight gain or hinders weight loss) who has tried everything, then why do you still have an unhealthy body weight?

Dubious weight loss strategies — including pills, fad dieting, yo-yo dieting or other quick-fixes and shortcuts typically fail as long-term weight loss solutions. Maybe everything includes these methods, but if everything doesn’t include the approaches listed below, then you haven’t tried everything.

Does “everything” include:

  • Educating yourself about nutrition?
  • Changing your old, bad eating habits and embracing new habits… like seriously, not just switching out white bread for whole wheat versions.
  • Practicing the new habits consistently?
  • Monitoring your food intake in some manner?
  • Engaging in regular exercise?
  • Eating healthy, whole, nutritious foods most of the time?
  • Setting realistic and achievable weight loss goals?
  • Being patient and consistent, as sustainable weight loss takes time and effort.
  • Getting enough sleep to support overall health and weight management?

I’ve been overweight. I still am. Maintaining a healthy weight has been straightforward for me; it’s either happened or it hasn’t. And when I’ve achieved it, I didn’t “struggle” to do it. While I used to stay in shape effortlessly when I was younger, aging has made weight management more reliant on consistent exercise and diet. Despite facing challenges with metabolism slowdown as I’ve gotten older, I’ve remained dedicated to fitness. I haven’t been without a gym membership for 32 years. Weight fluctuations have been directly tied to my choices, and while I may perceive them as struggles, they’re simply challenges to overcome.

If you struggle with the effects of excess weight, like joint pain, the inability to tie your shoes or becoming winded during mild exertion, then it’s accurate to state, “I struggle with my weight.”

But using the term to imply victimhood or helplessness, while refusing to take practical and doable corrective actions to maintain a healthy weight absolutely does not serve you. Many insist they have a weight problem when their inability to shed excess pounds and meet healthy weight loss goals is because of their unwillingness to make AND MAINTAIN the lifestyle changes necessary to lose weight and keep it off. For these individuals, it’s much easier to play poor me and declare, “I struggle with my weight. I’ve tried everything.” Is that you?

Be conscious of what you think and speak (or even write) to describe your condition. Be true to yourself so you can help yourself by addressing your weaknesses. Heck, we all have them.

Tune in to your real struggle — evaluate if you’re even struggling at all. Ask an honest question, “Have I tried everything?” If the answer is yes, then seek advice from a healthcare professional. Maybe you need some help with emotional eating or an eating disorder, for example. But if the answer is no, work with your honest answer.

Look, if you’ve struggled, you’ve struggled. And that struggle is real. I get it. But if you haven’t struggled, well… this post.

Friends, we gotta be mindful about self-talk, lest it become our reality. Let’s be wary of negative self-talk, for it can sabotage us by misshaping our reality.

I think I state this on the About the blog page. But it’s worth repeating. I write this blog to hammer home this key point: When it comes to our healthful outcomes, we control so much.

If you’re trying to lose weight and maintain it and not meeting your goals, it’s okay. Take a minute. Do a reset. Ask the tough questions. And if, in the end, you need external help, check with a healthcare professional or dietitian/nutritionist. If you choose a nutritionist, I recommend choosing a holistic nutritionist.


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